On Fly (Update 2)

Too much care given to how we define ourselves to the others....a negative energy absorbs a big share of our minds calculating the tiny possibilities designed in other people imaginations about how we seem in their eyes and what we count for according to their beliefs and values....and after a while you will get to one result....No one should ever frame you because no one lives in ur shoes.
And once you have reached this dead end you have to adopt another attitude towards other people...never to judge , because believe me if you are spending your lifetime between worrying about how people look at you and on the other hand judging them through their deeds then simply you have vainly wasted your life , look deep into your flaws _ and believe me there are many _ seek their management and heal them and when you are done _ which you will never be _ start to look to other people around you but before that stay dedicated to your own project filling the blanks of your soul and behavior .

" But won't that interfere with my human need to communicate with the others ? won't it hinder our usual interpretations with our friends , family or even work buddies ? " . Well when I say do not judge people I do not mean to isolate yourself away from them , what I really mean is that instead of fishing their tics it's more beneficial and more reasonable to understand their circumstances and obligations and believe me when you do so many exclamation marks you once had about their ways in life will simply disappear , and at this point and this point only you can judge , direct and help them because now you know what is beneath their deeds , what is hidden behind a strange behavior , you have revealed the motivation.

These lines are really valuable not because I wrote them , No , it's because it took me so long to reach and conclude them and in my way I had my share in suffering and paying the bill obligatory for getting any life experience , and when I started to apply them I found how simply you can change people around you , because at the end everyone's problem including the writer is to find someone who truly listens and provides unconditioned help and love...something if you once met in life please do not let it go foolishly.

c u